You may think that what type of title this is “How to be Unhappy in life”, yes we all want to happy but sometime subconsciously we follow those things in life make us unhappy.
If you want to be happy in life first you have to eliminate the reason of your unhappiness in life. Is not it?
This all are well-known by you but perhaps some time forgot or overlook those things causing your unhappiness.
So how you can invite unhappy life, here it is:
Unhappiness comes when the thing goes wrong:
“Why always such things happen with me only?”
“Does the rain not start after some time, always remain bad weather here!”
“The new boss is not good at all; he is total irresponsible and always firing me only”
We always expect goodness situation but we have to think nothing to do with the weather.
We try to find something else to complain about, because that’s just the way they are. And also after resolve the issues we are not stop complaining about with new issue again.
How we can control the tendency of complain:
- Awareness: Consciousness is the first step to solve problem
- Understand the source of problem: Why we does complain on particular thing/person/situation, find out there should something hidden, only need to address it.
- Be positive: Spend on things make you happy, focusing on other thing make you unhappy is not help at all to sort out the things.
- Less Talk: More action instead more talks useful to solve issues.
Do I have a habit of comparing with others?
“She is doing well in her career than me”
“Why I am not so rich person than Mr X”
It is value less to compare with others as other people are not you and you are not other people. I think rather discourage yourself on thinking about others what they have , think about what you want to have in your life.
Worry before the thing happen:
It is very easy to be unhappy when we think about thing yet to happen as:
- Giving a presentation at monthly meeting: What if question arises and I can’t answer well? If people think it is boring?
- Attend a social event: What if no one talks with me?
- Start a new business: If my business fails? If investors not interested?
When you think and worrying about future, you are not living in the present. So stop worrying about the future at this moment.
If you hide your problem, it not at all helps to sort out the same and that actually help to make you unhappy.
So don’t avoid the problem persist in your life, acknowledge and address it by breaking your comfort zone.
Do things you don’t like:
People do the things they not at all like/enjoy. They help themselves to be remaining unhappy by doing things they not love.
But why do you follow that? Stop it and do what you love most. If you don’t like your job then switch to anywhere you love to do. Remember you are the CEO of your own life.
Change other people:
This is a simple way of being unhappy. Can you really change others? It is impossible. Even if people do change in response to your action, it’s does not solve your problem and may be initially you become happy but ultimately after sometime it will be vanish.
Because problem is not they, it is your desire to change them.
Just like to change others, trying to please everyone around you will help you to be unhappy , because:
- It’s impossible to please everyone.
- Everyone is different
- Be living for yourself.
Don’t change yourself just because someone has different expectation on how you should be. You live for yourself not for others.
Now time for your turn. If you want to be happy in the life, please avoid above things as much as possible according to the situation and share with your near and dear once for more happiness.
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