Consciousness: The power to choose How to react over situation
My earlier post “Stream of Consciousness: Quotes by Swami Vivekananda “, insist me to write this one. If you think that what’s stop you from being happy, then please relax and take a look.
What’s stopping you from being happy, all the time?
As you are only the person who has enough power to create a happy life , can you list your obstacles to your happiness on a paper .!
We know that there are only two ways to live: unconsciously or consciously
Admittedly, the majority of our life was spent in an unconscious state. Isn’t it..?
And that time we are dependent on various event or circumstances including other people who make us happy. Those outsider things determine how your day will be , countless “bad” or “good” are labeled on what happened to us.
If circumstances or events didn’t match our expectations, then the day was shot to hell… every time! Emotions like aggravation, ego, irritation, impatience, anger, sadness, moodiness, to name a few, ruled our life.
Now see how living consciously changed our life dramatically.
But what does “living consciously” mean and more importantly how do we accomplish living consciously 24 hours a day, seven days a week? Is being happy in our every waking moment even possible?
Yes it is possible!
Living consciously means thinking and behaving from a different angel, than we have in the past.
It is one of the most important elements to maintaining and sustaining happiness.
Example: You’re driving on the freeway and someone hastily and without warning cuts into your lane which causes you to swerve to avoid an accident. Most people would react to this situation in an unconscious manner.
How would you react in this same situation?
Your answer determines whether or not you respond consciously or not. Would you offer them the middle-finger salute and let the expletives fly?
If that response sounds familiar or similar to how you would respond, then you are reacting unconsciously. And if you’re reacting unconsciously, then you’re not choosing your responses. And if you’re not choosing your responses, you become a victim of your circumstances. When you’re a victim of your circumstances…maintaining and sustaining happiness is impossible.
Think about this. When you respond to anyone or any circumstance in an angry manner, does that response create more happiness or less happiness in your life? The answer is less.
Whenever we express anger, impatience, intolerance, judgments, sadness or any other related emotion, we’re actually subtracting from our happiness. More importantly, we actually begin attracting more of the same toxic emotions into our life.
We can’t be angry and happy at the same time. We have to choose one. During any circumstance, we have the power to choose how we want to feel. It’s really that simple.
What are some different emotions you could choose in that same situation?
Let’s use the same example of a driver cutting us off in traffic, but this time let’s imagine an empathetic reason why someone would drive this way. In other words, under what circumstances would you forgive and excuse a driver for cutting you off?
Are you able to come up with a plausible reason?
If so, you are beginning to think differently.
If you’re stuck, let me be of some assistance. What if the driver just received a phone call saying that their child, mother, husband, wife, best-friend or grandparent was just admitted to the emergency room in a hospital hundreds miles away? Can you imagine how you would drive with the same news? Your focus would be to get to your loved one as quickly as possible.
Would you have reacted to them differently if you knew their circumstances? Of course you would!
So the next time someone “disrespects” you in traffic, don’t take their behavior personally because it’s not personal.
To be clear, I’m not condoning rude, reckless inconsiderate drivers. What I am saying is if your priority is happiness, then you have an obligation and a responsibility to consciously choose your reactions in a way that does n’t subtract from your happiness.
Emotion is what drives us, but logic and intelligence is what should be steering us. So tune up your Consciousness now.
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