So you are feeling that “I am a failure at everything I do”. Before I go into the topic failure at everything, just want to ask one question to you. How you decide what failure is? What are the standard you consider something as a failure. Is it like trying something and not working for the first time? Do you rely only on your luck on success and failure? Then I can’t help you. If you want to know the exact reason why you feel a failure at everything then please keep aside those thinking first.
Now take an example, consider you are in a desert hot land in a summer. The breeze is just blowing across the mirages above the sand. You are trying to cool down. Can you make cooling? If you say this as a failure at everything then you may take a break here.
You only fail if you see it as a failure; if you see it as a lesson then you know how something doesn’t work. You may try a new approach until you meet what you set to accomplish.
Whenever I open news channel I found so many bad news, failures at everything, mishaps, suffering which actually present as breaking news. I think it is because our society likes to see failure than people doing great things. As a result there we keep our standards low and shallow, forbid we actually think we can create change in our life because it our own or that of someone else. Hope it is clear to you that failure is your view-point.
Now let us see what may be the reason of your failure at everything you do:
1. Do you argue and not interested to take a feedback?
I feel disappointed when anyone gives a feedback on my failure or way of work. After sometime I found some of their words is really useful. Actually when I start arguing with the people want to help me its clear sign of giving up. This cloud be one reason for your next failure. So next time when you receive a feedback accept it and think on it.
“The only real failure in life is not to be true to the best one knows.”
2. Do you blame on other people and try to give excuse when fail?
This is very practical and common issue I can realize. Whenever my boss fired me for not get the assignment, I start to give lot of excuse and blame on system and other staff. Do you follow same thing. But think positively I am actually failed here to meet my goal. If we analysis deeply on what excuse and blame we give to my boss, we can get the answer of my failure what I missed out to take action from my end for prevent the failure. If I forget my responsibility towards my failure then I can’t be succeed.
I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
― Thomas A. Edison
3. Fear to swim against the current and take the challenge:
Do you ready to take a calculative risk when need to go against everything to meet your target? This is exactly where we fail to take the opportunity. Everyone likes to swim with the current, but very few have the courage of swim against the current. The magic is that most of them are succeeded to get what they want. I am not saying you to go every time against the current but sometime it really needs to take the challenge. Pursue that risk that aligns with your inner strengths and talents.
“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”
― Winston S. Churchill
4. Do you demotivated after a big set back?
It is quite natural to keep motivating after a big setback. But thinking negatively about yourself after failure will make you more prone to failures. Whenever a failure occurred you probably know what to do now, but the problem is you not try hard to take the action as you lost self motivation. Here is a complete guide for you how you can motivate yourself after a big setback.
“Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.”
– Albert Einstein
5. Do you wish to get too much too quickly:
Before I have start blogging I was in a big dilemma that I can make huge money online. Believe me friend I was wrong, even after so many days I have not get a single penny from this blog. So where was my fault, I actually think it easy and want to get lot of money so quickly. Dream big is good but the problem is aiming high without considering the dedication, effort and work it takes each day to come at any point to your target. So it is better to set small milestone and keep motivating by achieving those to get higher goal.
“Winners are not afraid of losing. But losers are. Failure is part of the process of success. People who avoid failure also avoid success.”
– Robert T. Kiyosaki
6. Do you get too much distracted?
Getting too much distraction could keep you away from the original focus and productivity. Analysis why you failed and what better you can do without distraction from your goal. In this situation of you keep in touch with negative people and negative thought then things become more critical. You may noticed that when you get distracted from your goal you are doing lot of unnecessary activity like checking mails in regular intervene or check you face book page or start discussing on your co-worker. If you continuously switch from Facebook to Twitter to Instagram to email, you’ll lose sight of what is really important. This all are reduce your productivity and create some more failures.
“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you always got.”
– Mark Twain
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7. Do you lost your self belief easily?
If you believe that “it is not possible “then u you could not achieve it. One major difference between successful and unsuccessful people is they believe on themselves what boost their inner power to reach the target. If you don’t know your ability to find the solution then you must fail here. You can learn here to boost your self-confidence and make a practice. Your family, friends always want you to do well and continue to stand behind you if you fail in first attempt. But remember they also celebrate your success too. If you recall the last Rio Olympic 2016 when Sakshi Malik had shown us how she make the success.
“Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure.”
– Napoleon Hill
8. Do you suffer from Procrastination
Successful people make the difference as they have the ability to avoid procrastination. It helps them to keep a constant level of productivity. If you don’t able to get started the things you wish to do or as soon as you confronted a problem or difficulties then you are suffering from it.
“Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.”
— Henry Ford
9. Do you have a concrete planning?
If you don’t know what you actually want and the plan to get the same then failure is obvious. The plan may be not so perfect but if you don’t have the plan then it is critical issue. Without it you can’t go near to your target. To prevent failure at everything you need to update your plan time to time, fail to do so will take you towards failure.
“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying. — Michael Jordan
10. Is it a big matter with you what other people think?
Do you really make all your decision on your own? Generally we choose things based on a pre convinced idea of what’s acceptable by others or how they react or say about us. Isn’t it? What other people think is a big concern on failure. It can create an inability to do anything at all, because we can think about is the reaction of everybody else. We choose things with everyone else in mind except ourselves.
“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”
— Thomas Edison
Now it’s your turn whether you want to choose success or avoid above common issues of failure at everything you do. You can add more points if you want, in the comment bellow. If you think this post is useful, then please share with your friends.
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